Saturday, January 10, 2009

Relationships are a lot of work

How relationships (mine in particular) can be so maddening and fulfilling at the same time is certainly a mystery. For the past several months, my partner has been under a great deal of stress, and I have struggled to try and support him by listening and offering advice. Unfortunately, even though we have a great relationship, I have not always come across as completely sympathetic even though I am. I chalk up my sometimes callus-sounding responses (to his ears) to my Irish heritage and an emotional disconnect that I cannot explain. Fortunately, we have been together for quite awhile so he does know that I love him deeply and only want to see him happy.

Part of the breakdown in our communication stems from the fact that I am not a psychiatrist and sometimes fail to articulate my feelings in a helpful manner. But in my defense, it is very difficult when you feel powerless to help someone you care about, and lately I've felt completely exasperated. All I can do is offer a sympathetic ear and let him know that I support and love him. However, sometimes that just does not seem to be enough. Do I sound morose? I don't mean to be. I'm just rambling again.

3 comments:

CJ said...

I love and support your partner, too. Oh, and you too there, what's-your-name.

xo

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Riverwolf, said...

Were you spying on me and my partner last night because I'm living the same drama! Don't even get me started....